Sunday, January 17, 2016

Seconds, Thirds and Beyond..

I've realized that I post less, and less and less these days. And less. So I think I am just going to quit apologizing for my lateness and lack of posting.  So is my life.  I just read a great blog on the topic of 'Saying No' and having more free time to enjoy things like blogging.  I wish I could start this new year off by having a clean schedule.  But I am going to try my hardest with what I have already and learn the power of saying no.  I liked the advice of just doing the activities that bring you LIFE and cut out the ones that DRAIN you.  With that being said, I do like blogging about my crazy imperfect Counselor Mom Life so here goes my post for the New Year..

My life had a sudden 'aha' moment last week when I needed to make chocolate chip cookies for a sick friend.  My older child who normally loves baking, was too busy playing in the other room to help, so I called in my 3 year old, Belle.  She ran right into the kitchen, got the stool out and stood at the counter waiting to make cookies.

I almost teared up because for her entire 3 years of life, I was always baking with my older child and not really giving it a thought for my younger one.  My youngest started making cookies with her older sister when she was curled up in her newborn sling while I 'wore' her around the kitchen.  the next year she was crawling on the kitchen floor while I baked with her sister and I barely payed attention to her.  I just assumed as she grew older that she was 'too young' and 'not interested yet.'

So for the first time last week, I realized I was doing a huge milestone activity ALONE with my second born. Now, some of you may have different gendered kids and maybe had a first born son, so you wanted to start the domestic stereotyped baking activities with your second born, first girl when she was 6 months old.  But for me, I had already done those fun first time girl things with my first born.  Or like when we got out the Christmas decorations, I called in my first born to help decorate the tree, forgetting my 3 year old might be just as excited to help. Sad, right?

I realized at that moment, yes 3.5 years later, that I needed to really give my second child the same attention and motivation that I had for my first. Not an easy task as everyone has told me the seconds, and thirds and beyond just get a little less attention.  They get by without the same rules as the first like the 5 minute rule when things fall on the floor vs. the 5 second rule.

But it's really made me wake up and realize that each child regardless of gender or birth order, really needs a little more time and attention.  So one of my New Years' resolutions is to work harder to give my second born new experiences and extra individual attention.  Just because my older one likes ballet, doesn't mean I need to throw it on my other child.  That new experiences can actually be done with our second born.   That my first born doesn't always have to be the 'first.'
Monday, November 30, 2015

Christmas and Holiday Books and Movies for Kids

It's my favorite season and time of year! And being a book lover, I am ADDICTED to holiday books for my kids. I think I have a whole library I could card catalog for them.  And I have already gotten out our traditional holiday DVD's and started DVR'ing our faves.  I compiled a list of our family's most favorites for young children and if you have any more you want to add, leave them in the comments section.  Happy shopping and reading (and tv watching)!

Christmas and Holiday Board Books: 
1) Clifford's First Christmas (6.99)

2) Doc McStuffins Jingle Bell Doc  (5.70$)

 4) Christmas in the Manger (6.27$)

Christmas Books (Hardcover and Paperback):

2)  Disney Christmas Storybook Collection (13$)

 3) The Christmas Party (Disney Frozen) (4.50$)

4)  Olive, the Other Reindeer

 5) The Sweet Smell of Christmas (Scented Storybook)  (5.35)  Scratch and Sniff!! I had this book as a child and loved it!

6) The Night Before the Night Before Christmas (2.76). We love this author and her series and especially this one! It's a funny twist to the original tale.

7) Latke, the Lucky Dog (Hanukkah) (7.95$). My girls love this book! It's such a cute story of a stray dog adopted by a family who makes messes as he gets house trained.  It's a cute way to explain what Hanukkah is all about.

Movies and TV Shows:

1) Elf on the Shelf DVD! A must in our house. So far my girls have asked to watch this 5 times and it's November 30th.
(9.99)An Elf's Story DVD  

2) Charlie Brown Christmas 50th Anniversary, A: Deluxe Edition  (7.69$) We love this classic show!

3) The How the Grinch Stole Christmas (the 1966 version).  This DVD can be pricey so look on your local channels and DVR it!  We have it scheduled to come on TV on December 2nd.

 4) Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer and Frosty!! (16.80$)  The Original Christmas Classics Gift Set can get you Frosty and Santa along with Rudolph.  We love these classic movies!

 5) The Polar Express (6.99).  We go to the Grapevine Polar Express each year and love watching the movie before we go.  My girls now love sleigh bells!

There ya have it! My list of our faves. Of course there are a TON more out there, so leave your most favorite books and shows in the comments section.