So after talking to lots of moms, researching and soul searching, I found a few tips to help get us started off to Kindergarten:
Yep, this is a big one. On one of the school tours I went on last year, the Kinder teachers all said whether your child has been in full time day care or they stay at home, they will be coming home completely exhausted. Like falling asleep at the dinner table at 5:30pm tired. And if not falling asleep then they will look like an over tired, major meltdown devil zombie creature. The answer?
- Put your child to bed early starting 2-3 weeks before school starts. Early like 7-8pm. Yes, it's still light outside, so you can maybe get some blackout shades to help, a calm bath before bed, keep the room cool, read some good yoga kid books (see below), rub some lavender on them, etc.
2) Getting dressed
I know this is a HUGE problem for all kids. I don't know of a single 5 year old child that will go and get dressed by themselves, brush their hair and teeth on the first reminder. So here are a few tips moms have suggested:
- Start waking them up early for school 1-2 weeks before school actually starts
- Lay out their clothes the night before, including socks and shoes, bows, etc
- Have them practice getting dressed the first week before school as a practice run
- Don't laugh, but if your child really struggles with getting up and dressed, some moms have their child sleep in their clothes the night before
- Make a reward chart for getting dressed with 1-2 reminders, etc for the first month
- Also work more on self care like how to toilet themselves without help, and washing hands
Packing lunches the night before is a major time saver. If your child does hot lunches then you don't have to worry about this one. But if not, even if you don't think it will take long, it always takes longer so pack everything the night before including drinks/cups. Believe me, your life will be so much easier getting out that door.
4) ABC, 123's
4) ABC, 123's
- Don't worry if your child can't read yet. I hear more and more moms worried that their child can't spell, write all their letters and add and subtract or read. It's going to be okay. Remember, Kindergarten is like an extension of preschool. Back in the day, it was more like PreK. Preparing you to go into real school like 1st grade. Kindergarten is their last year of fun times doing art, play dough, running around, singing silly songs and being a kid. They have the rest of their lives to be book worms.
- But if you want to help them get ready to be classroom ready, you can always work on scissor skills, lacing cards and holding a pencil more during the summer. This can help with gross and fine motor skills. Also help them with words the teacher will use like, 'focus' and 'paying attention.' Ha, with 5 year olds it's kind of impossible to get them to sit still, but they should be able to pay attention for 1 minute per age, so 5 minutes at a time. And the best thing you can do as a parent now is read, read, read to them. This teaches focusing skills, introduction to letters and reading, it's engaging, and teaches them the importance of learning.
- Kind of along the lines of practicing getting dressed a week before, you can also drive the route of the school or walk your route. Show them the way they will be going to and from each morning, how carpool will look like, and pick up. Also, you can go up to the building a few days or week before even if it's locked to show them the outside of it, walk around it, show them the playground and get a good feel for how it will be before the big day.
6) After school activities
This one mom said it best: "my quick input on this topic, my approach to starting full time school is to totally clear the schedule of any after school commitments for at least the first semester. They are just exhausted from school. We also let them take a ‘mental health day’ once a term or so."
I personally think picking 1 activity is good this first year. When I was a child, most kids didn't start doing all these advanced sports and were not prima ballerinas at age 5. And taking a day off here and there is OK. Perfect attendance? What's that?
Relaxation for bedtime, a great book to help them learn to slow down and breathe. (click on picture for description)
Okay, so I feel like there aren't the best intro to Kindergarten books out there. I was at the book store and read through all of them and wasn't too impressed. Most of them tell you things to be scared of so if your child is excited, then I wouldn't buy them because it will cause them to fear things they so far aren't afraid of yet. But these 2 books below do the best job of explaining what Kindergarten will be like.The Night Before Kindergarten (2.99)
Welcome to Kindergarten (6.50$)
I hope this information helps a little. I didn't want to overwhelm you all with tons of tips and suggestions to make it even more stressful. And hopefully your school will have a Parents and Tears coffee station you can stop by after drop-off that first day, so you can all cry together!